…It all comes from within.

There is is a lot of talk about Love and it is a main focus for us human beings. Love, Self Love, Unconditional Love, you name it Love. Love is the source of all life, love is freedom, love is light, love is all and anything less than that is the illusion of life.

We don’t ‘get’ love from somebody or something, we are love. And when we come into alignment with our inner being, the truth of who and what we are, then we FEEL and experience this love. The FEELING of being ‘in love’ is the feeling of being in alignment with you and who you really are. And then the feeling of falling ‘out of love’ or into hate, is the feeling of falling out of alignment with you.

So what does that mean to us? How does that affect and effect our lives? And how can awareness of this enhance our lives?

Well, do you love animals? Most of us do. Do we stop loving them because they do something we don’t like? Do we fall out of love with animals? No, not usually. In fact, problems, difficulty, quirks, challenges, disabilities, illness, that all serves to usually make us more understanding and loving towards them and more importantly, deeply appreciative. Animals help us to grow in our ability to love. If they bite or scratch us, if they soil on the floor, we often understand why, take care of their needs, clean up after them and we forgive them…

So why don’t we do the same for humans?  Because we haven’t been taught to. In most cases we were taught from day one that if you don’t conform, if you don’t fit in, if you don’t obey, then you will be punished, ridiculed, chastised and or cast out.  So what did that teach us fundamentally about love?  Most likely that ‘that must mean that I am unworthy,’ somebody I love is ultimately going to leave, ‘I must be broken,’ or that love is unsafe.  If I fall in love with someone or if someone loves me, then that means I am going to get hurt, told that I’ve messed up, told that I am not good enough, or it means that I am going to have to leave.  So why do we develop those beliefs?  Because we aware or not, chose to.  We chose to accept and take on board somebody else’s fears and doubts.

The brilliant news is that we can change.  And the moment that we do, the whole world does too…

Why?  Because of our view.

This goes back to my previous blogs Emotional Guidance System and Navigating the Emotional Scale as well as Mount Olympus because when we are at the top, we are able to give and don’t feel a need to take love.  Why?  When we are in alignment with who we truly are, we can BE love.  How?  Because Love is our Being!

And the only way to find ‘The One,’ is to ‘Be the One,’ because we ‘Are the One.’  If we are not yet aligned with our Inner Being, with our Soul, with our inner God or Goddess, then all love is a Codependency and a taking.  Can fulfilment be received externally? No. I cannot fulfill me with anything but me.  And then, I can ‘Share me’ because I am in a state of being. So therefore, when practiced Self Love becomes a natural awareness of who we are within and we ‘Know Thyself,’ then that love can be shared with consistency, because it becomes Unconditional and not dependent on a behaviour or a thing.

And then does that mean that we never fall down again?  No, it means that we understand why and that we get back up again.  That it’s not the other person’s fault that we fell out of love with them, but that falling out of love, means that I fell out of alignment with me.

I love Abraham-Hicks and after years of exploration and learning, I understand and it resonates to listen so much more deeply.  I know that there are times when it would have made no sense and clashed up against me, but that it is where I was at the time.  And even now I recognise things that I didn’t get or didn’t sit well with me and that’s okay.  All true learning comes from the experience of living.  And if I have an open mind, I can learn, grow, develop and potentially become anything.

I hope this helps.  And I would like to throw out there a challenge…

A new love interest of mine back in April once said to me, “You will only ever get my best from me.”  And that made me think.  It made me think about how I could not at that time say the same thing.  And it made me want to be able to say it and mean it.  As I fell from my seat of consciousness, my perception of him also changed and I don’t know where he was within himself then or where he is now… But what I do know is that I love him.  And if I love him, or me or anybody, then I will take that seat and sit in the awareness of my Soul and the inner Observer and I will develop my skills and consistency to stop being a little Princess and transform completely into a Queen.  Because that is what the world most needs…  And one day, sat beside me, I will look over and see my King.

So this is my challenge to you and to me:  To practice constant awareness of where we sit inside, within ourselves and to stop blaming anybody or anything and to once and for all commit to complete accountability and to being fully responsible for staying aligned with the inner light of ‘Me.’  And to recognise that “I am not feeling love,” means that “I am not being Unconditional Love.”

As always, stay present and stay aware.

Love & Light

Tremaria x